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Avoid Common Parenting Pitfalls 
with Custom-Designed Solutions 
That Fit Your Needs, 
Using a Proven Step-by-Step Plan.

A Personal Message From: 
Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE 
“America’s Parenting Problem-Solver” – – Radio-TV Interview Report

Dear Fellow Parent,

Don’t even think of buying another parenting book until you read about the “Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula.” This letter offers an introduction to a once-secret step-by-step problem-solving system that can help any parent can plan an individualized effective response to any parenting challenge — in minutes!

For the past 25 years I’ve taught thousands of parents from diverse backgrounds not only parenting basics, but even highly advanced concepts and skills many family-service professionals don’t even know!

The parents who learn the most and get the most results are those who:

• Are open to ideas that long-term research have proven effective, but might be different than what their mother, neighbor or local newspaper say are the “best” ways to parent.

• Focus on long-term results instead of quick fixes.
• Are willing to invest a few hours each week for a few months to learn an easy-to-use problem-solving system that can prevent or resolve most common parenting challenges and improve every relationship in your life for a lifetime.

If you are committed to becoming the best parent you can be, then I can teach you a simple process that will free you from depending on anyone for advice, including parenting “experts” like me!

In this letter, I’m going to make some bold promises about what you can accomplish by learning the Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula. If you read this entire letter, you will see that I back up every claim.

Very Few Parents

Have Identified Their Parenting Goals;

Even Fewer Have a PLAN and

the Skills They Need to Achieve Those Goals.

When it comes to the language and action skills that are part of effective parenting, “Parental love may come naturally, but effective parenting skills are learned.“ (And most people do not learn the most-effective skills in their own families.)

In parenting, there is not one “right” way to do something, but there are ”more effective” and “less effective” ways to reach our parenting goals. Long-term research and consistent reports from thousands of parents over 10-40 years prove what is “effective.”

So the Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula is not one universal solution that supposedly cures any parenting problem.

There are a gazillion potential parenting challenges — and each one needs an individualized response that fits the needs of the parent, child and situation. 

Do you feel overwhelmed thinking you need to be prepared to solve a gazillion potential parenting problems? Of course! So most of us say, “I’ll just figure things out as they happen.” 

We might have ideas and opinions about how to parent, maybe even have pretty good skills, but we don’t really have a plan for preventing problems or responding to those that arise. We just use trial-and-error to figure things out.

Trial-and-Error Parenting 
Gives Quick Fixes That Seem to Work…
At First…
But Usually Has Negative Side-Effects 
You Won’t See Until Later, 
When You’ve Got a Bad Habit or a Bigger Problem!

Take this quick quiz: How many of these unexpected results have you experienced?

• We try being flexible, but look wishy-washy instead.
• We praise children, but they argue with our compliment!
• We tell children not to do something, but they turn around and do it anyway!
• When we try to negotiate a solution to a power struggle, we end up giving in!
• When we set the rules, our children seek and find loopholes.
• When we do nice things for our children, they act like ungrateful brats and treat us like maids, chauffeurs, short-order cooks and doormats!
• When we tell children to calm down, they get more upset!
• When we try to get our children to open up and talk, they clam up even more!
• When we express our concerns, children roll their eyes and walk away.
• We ignore the attention-seeking behavior and tantrums, like advice says we should, but the child’s behavior gets so much worse we can’t ignore it any longer!
• When we tell our children their mean behavior hurts our feelings, they smile!
• When we give them chances by counting to three, they never seem to take action until we get to three!
• When we threaten to punish our children, they say “go ahead, you can’t hurt me!” So we have to get more extreme just to get them to behave!
• If we slap them, they slap us — and other children! That could get us both in trouble!
• So we use discipline like time-outs. Sometimes it starts to work, but by the time the one-minute-per-year-of-age-time is up, children are more out of control than they were when we put them in the time-out! Or they keep coming out of the room or chair and follow us around sobbing!
• If we ground them, we feel punished because they make our lives miserable! 

…and on and on it can go.

In each situation, do you know which tool could prevent or stop that situation from happening? (If you do or if you have never had any of these situations happen, then I’d like to recruit you as one of my personally-trained instructors — because these are all pretty common — even I have had them happen before!)

 Do You Want to Feel Confident
That What You Say and Do Today
Will Help You Reach Your Parenting Goals?

The Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula combines scientific research, ancient truths and common sense into a simple reliable user-friendly plan. This effective parenting “system” offers parents:

1. A universal plan for effective parenting that
2. Meets the individual needs of each situation, child and parent in diverse families and
3. Allows parents to express their unique personal style, so they feel authentic using it.

Now I’m not asking you to try some “revolutionary, new” parenting techniques that I made up! Parents have been using some of these techniques for ages. Some parenting classes and resources have taught the skills and have long-term research over the past 40 years that prove the skills work. The only think I “invented” is the systematic way I organize, teach and tell parents to use the skills — because parents get the best results possible when they use the skills this way.

About a “Universal” Parenting “Formula”

…Until They Learn the Details 

and See 10 Years of Impressive Outcome Results…

Then They Thump Their Foreheads and Say, “Why Didn’t Someone Think of this Sooner!?”

So let’s look at a couple of critical factors:

First, let me tell you a little about myself and how I developed this “no-longer secret” formula, because I think it will help you see that this is not some fly-by-night idea.

I Have Unique Qualifications to Teach Parenting Skills:

• Both of my parents were professional parent educators and raised me with many of these skills. I can testify from a child’s perspective how good it feels to be on the receiving end of these parenting tools.
• I used these skills to parent my children, who are now young adults leaving the nest. I can attest, from a parent’s perspective, about the real-life challenges I’ve used these parenting tools to solve. People often comment about what “good kids” I have — even people who don’t know me or what I do professionally. They aren’t perfect children and I’m not a perfect parent — there is no such thing — and if we were, we wouldn’t have learned the lessons that helped us grow.
• I have an advanced degree, social work license and certification in parenting studies and family life education. I also participate in dozens of hours of training each year and stay abreast of current research and issues in my field. So from a professional social worker’s perspective, I understand the theoretical and philosophical basis for the parenting tools I teach. Jargon can be confusing, so I explain complex concepts in simple everyday terms.
• I am a specially trained and certified second-generation parent educator with over 25 years’ experience. So literally thousands of parents have shared their real life examples of the day-to-day crises they’ve successfully handled – or muffed and learned from.

It Could Take a Lifetime and Fortune 
to Figure All This Out Yourself — 
so I’ve Saved You Time & Money
by Doing All the Hard Work for You!

Next, consider what it took to pull together this kind of comprehensive plan.

I’ve read literally hundreds of parenting books, articles, and research studies (and continue to do so). Because of my professional education and training, I can recognize and weed out inaccurate advice and quick fixes that work in the short-run but have negative long-term results. I’ll share only the best, most-reliable, time-tested, proven-effective, practical parenting tools with you — in a logical, organized, step-by-step format.

For you to independently compile, learn and master the 100+ most-effective parenting tools taught in The Parents Toolshop and other Universal Blueprint^® resources, you would need to:

• Spend at least 10 years reading hundreds of resources, collecting the best ideas in each resource
• Spend at least 5 years reading research studies for evidence of each skill’s effectiveness — and spend hours each year reviewing current the latest research.
• Take at least 4 years of college-level classes in subjects such as child development, family dynamics and psychology to understand the concepts, theories and philosophies that are the basis for the tools.
• Get additional training in parenting techniques, which are the practical applications of those theories and not usually taught in college.
• Spend at least 1 year weeding out any inaccurate advice, ineffective skills or parenting myths
• Develop a system for categorizing 100+ tools so it’s easy to find tools when you need them.
• Figure out exactly what to say/do with each tool to use it in the most-effective way to get the best results and avoid common misuses.
• Organize the tools in some logical step-by-step order that will make it easier to learn, choose and use the tools.

• Test the way you organize, teach and use the skills with several thousand parents for at least several years to document the long-term results and prove it works…

…By then your children are grown!

Universal Blueprint^® Resources 
Reference or are Consistent With 
Parenting Experts You Already Know and Trust.

Here is a short list of the authors The Parents Toolshop book references☼ and/or who have endorsed♥ it:

• Jack Canfield, co-author Chicken Soup for the Soul^® series and President of Self-Esteem seminars and consulting ♥
• Barbara Coloroso, Kids are Worth It! ♥
• Stephen R. Covey, Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families ♥
• Dolores Curran, Traits of a Healthy Family ☼
• Donald Dinkmeyer, Sr. and Gary McKay, The Parent’s Handbook: S.T.E.P Systematic Training for Effective Parenting ☼
• Rudolf Dreikurs, M.D., Children: The Challenge ☼
• Albert Ellis, A Guide to Rational Living ☼
• Martha Farrell Erickson, Ph.D., Dir. of Children, Youth & Family Consortium, Univ. of Minnesota♥
• Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish, How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk ☼
• Jim Fay and Foster Cline, Parenting With Love and Logic ♥
• Thomas Gordon, P.E.T. Parent Effectiveness Training ☼
• Mary Sheedy Kurchinka, Raising a Spirited Child☼
• Jane Nelsen, Ed.D., Positive Discipline series ☼♥
• Dr. Dennis O’Grady, Taking the Fear out of Changing ♥
• Michael Popkin, Active Parenting ☼
• William Sears, M.D., Creative Parenting ☼
• Gary Smalley, Hidden Keys to a Loving Relationship ☼
• John Gray, Men Are From Mars, Women are From Venus ☼
• Dr. Gary Sweeten, Listening for Heaven’s Sake ☼
• . . . and dozens more!

Sound Too Good to Be True? Sound like Hype?

The Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula 

And its Skills Have Already Been Proven Effective

by Thousands of Parents for Over Ten Years. 

(Some Skills Have over 40 Years of Proven Results!)

The first several years I taught this formula to parents I saw dramatic results — but the results seemed almost too good to be true! I wanted to accumulate enough outcome results from enough parents from diverse backgrounds to prove the results were real and lasting. So I kept this formula a secret for almost 10 years. It was worth the wait. I now have over 10 years of consistently impressive outcome results.  

Here are just a few of the results of 10 years of field test with 1295 parents:

• 77% (or 992 parents) attended a 16-hour class and completed a pre/post skill assessment.
• 83% of these 992 parents (or 823 parents) graduated.
• 99.87% of those graduates (all but one) improved their parenting skills.
• On a scale of 11 points, the average improvement in skills was 2.40 points, from below the midpoint (5.41) to the “more skillful” range (7.81).
• Nearly 20% scored in the highest skill range possible!

In participant evaluations:

• 83% rated the program “excellent,” 100% rated it “good” or “excellent”
• 96% said they learned new information
• 100% said they would recommend the program to others.

Do You Get the Significance of Those Results? 
Read Them Again…Slowly.

Over the course of 10 years, ALL 100% of 1295 parents — from all walks of life — rated their Parents Toolshop® program “good” or “excellent” and said they would recommend the program to others. And all but 1 person out of all 1295 parents who took the class improved their skills.

And the Results LAST!

Now that my son is almost eighteen and I see what a wonderful young man he is, I realize parenting is not all “luck.” I truly believe that 90% is because of the concepts I learned from you, when he was only three — and I’ll be forever grateful to you for that. I had no role model for parenting to look back on. I learned healthy parenting from YOU, and it’s given me the most valuable thing in my life, a healthy, close relationship with my son. – – Eva Polichany, Ohio

If you are still in disbelief or suspicious, then you are a die-hard skeptic like me. Why do you think I kept this a secret so long? I needed convincing, too. You may want to check out some of the free resources listed at the end of the detailed field test results. 

Even Strangers Will Compliment Their Behavior 
and Your Parenting

IMAGINE…

• Having children who will behave without bribes, rewards, lectures, threats, spanking, grounding or punishing. Having responsible, self-disciplined children using exclusively positive and effective parenting tools.
• Experiencing fewer problems because you know the simple secrets for preventing the most common parenting challenges parents face — that most parents (and even some family-service professionals) don’t know.
• When problems arise, you are calm and confident. You are patient, have a level head and can think straight.
• Asking 3 questions and knowing, within minutes…or seconds…what would be an effective response.
• Choosing the best tools for the job…using the tools skillfully, in an order that gets you positive, long-lasting results…and reaching your parenting goals.
• Becoming the kind of parent you’ve always noticed and admired.

The Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula and its 100+ tools:

• Help you respond to problems, instead of react to them, so you don’t accidentally make things worse.
• Provide a reliable parenting plan, which helps reduce your frustration and gives you more patience and confidence.
• Give you (and your parenting partners) a balanced parenting style, so there is more cooperation and fewer arguments about who is too soft or too harsh.
• Increase parents and children’s self-esteem, which improves motivation and performance without egotism or cut-throat competition.
• Engage children’s cooperation — without testing, power struggles, bribes, incentives, rewards, payoffs or stickers — so children do what you ask the first time you ask them!
• Teach children life skills that promote children’s independence and responsibility, so parents can let go and trust more.
• Teach children how to solve their own problems and make responsible decisions — without parents taking over — so children will share more with parents, express their feelings appropriately and resolve conflicts with peers and siblings on their own!
• Help you and your children develop individualized stress and anger management plans so they have fewer tantrums and outbursts and everyone stays calmer, thinks straighter and is less stressed.
• Help you assertively communicate your concerns, opinions, values, expectations, and rules — without lectures, blame, shame, or threats — so children listen to and respect your needs.
• Help you understand why children misbehave and how to respond without escalating the situation or giving a payoff.
• Eliminate problem behavior by using discipline to teach. Children learn from their mistakes instead of just being punished for them, so they learn lessons faster, change their behavior, develop self-control, self-discipline and self-responsibility.
• Help you have productive family councils so you can prevent problems and make consensus decisions on issues that affect every family member.
• Improve your consistency, ability to recognize inaccurate advice, and use all the tools in adult relationships, which dramatically boosts parenting teamwork, your confidence and improves your adult relationships!

Learn the Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula Your Way. You Decide How to  Learn, 
How Much to Learn and Where to Learn.

I’ve spent the past few years creating a wide variety of resources for every parent and every budget.  You can either check out the on-line store at:
http://www.parentstoolshop.org/resources/online-store/parents/
or check out the NEWEST training packages at
http://www.parentstoolshop.org/programs

Many have special discounted prices for ordering direct from the publisher on-line, bonus gifts, and money-back guarantees. So check out the options today!

When you think about it,

You Only Have One Shot 
to Successfully Parent Your Child

One shot at how you handle the first tantrum.

One shot at how you handle the first potty training accident.

One shot at how you handle the first day at school.

One shot at how you handle the first sibling argument.

One shot at how you handle the first forgotten homework.

One shot at how you handle the first date.

One shot at how you handle the first driving lesson.

How you handle that first time decides what will happen next. Will the problem stop forever? Will it stop for a while but return? Will it get worse because there was a more effective way to handle that first chance?

There are many firsts in your child’s life. Whether your child is in the cradle or college, you can use the skills in the Universal Blueprint^® Parenting Success Formula to prevent problems and enhance your relationship with your child for life!

I hope you’ll choose to start NOW!

Yours in Service to Families,

Jody Johnston Pawel, LSW, CFLE
President, Parents Toolshop^® Consulting, Ltd.
P.O. Box 343 ~ Springboro, OH 45066
Dayton (OH) local & International: 937-748-4541
Toll-Free N. America: 1-877-748-4541
Fax: 937-748-4620 
Click Here to E-mail Jody
URL: http://www.ParentsToolshop.org
 

P.S. Only you can decide whether you are ready NOW, TODAY, to let me teach you my no-longer secret formula and at least a few critical skills for making your life easier, parenthood more rewarding and your child’s childhood healthier and happier. I hope you’ll trust me to share some insights as your “parenting partner” on this most-important job you’ve decided to undertake.