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(A) prevent the problem, (B) acknowledge feelings, (C1) set limits or express concerns, (C2) redirect misbehavior, (C3) reveal discipline, (D) maintain progress.

Explodes at targets, hurting people physically or emotionally.

Being firm, but not kind. Speakers uphold their rights in ways that violate the listeners’ rights.

Children who practice several different new skills at once.

Children who practice skills in only one area at a time, adding new skills to the ones they’ve already mastered.

A sum of money given for the purpose of teaching children and teenagers money management skills. When associated with chores, problems can arise.

Being honest about feelings without hurting others.

Being kind and firm. It upholds the speaker’s rights in ways that respect those of others.
Also see: Clear Communication Toolset

Another name for an Over-controlling parenting style.

The most extreme type of under-controlling parenting style, characterized by an apathetic lack of interest and follow through. Its most extreme form is neglectful.

Brainstorm ideas, Evaluate options, Decide and plan a solution.

As children increase their skills, parents expand the limits, staying one step ahead. Children can handle the freedom responsibly.

A general parenting style that offers limited choices, uses respectful, reasonable parenting techniques, and has positive long-term results.

Programs that reward subjects for desired behavior and withhold rewards or impose punishments for undesirable behavior. These methods are also called behavior charts, star/ sticker charts, and incentive programs.

Blaming others for power or revenge, rather than focusing on solutions. The blame game is addictive and escalates into intense defensiveness and revengeful blame cycles.

The basic limits, the minimum that must occur, or the least to settle for. There are usually more choices within bottom-line limits.

A tempting reward, designed to manipulate or influence someone to take a particular action. The focus is on external payoffs, instead of the value of the rule or request.

People who are addicted to bribes and only do something if they get a reward.

The child has a problem that does not directly affect or concern the parent.

Part Child problem and part Parent problem that does not involve problem behavior.

Part Child problem, part Parent problem involving On purpose misbehavior.

Part Child problem, part Parent problem in-volving Unintentional misbehavior.

Contains the tool sets to use when others have problems.

Making tasks or items more appealing to children, by using creative names for items or making tasks easier for children.

Contains the tools for sharing feelings and concerns in simple, clear, respectful, and assertive ways.

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