Since the tragic school massacre in Littleton, Colorado, people have been asking the same questions, “Why did this happen?” “How could it have been prevented?” “Could this happen in our school?” “What can we do to stop the school killings that are occurring nationwide?” The answers to these questions are neither simple nor absolute. School violence affects every person and it will take everyone’s involvement to solve the problem. There are specific, practical steps each of us can take TODAY to minimize the risks to our children and start... (Read More ...)
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Imagine this scene: A neighbor is at your house, visiting over a cup of tea. You start feeling irritated and pressured when you realize you are running late for an appointment. What would you say to your neighbor? Imagine the same situation, except it’s your child at the breakfast table. How would it change your response? Is it possible that you might respond in a more disrespectful way? Even when irritated or impatient, we often make the effort to listen and communicate with friends, acquaintances, and even total strangers with more respect than we give our own children. Most parents... (Read More ...)
When To Date QUESTION: I think that dating age depends on how mature and responsible a teenager is and should not be locked in by some age limit. I know some parents who think it should be whatever age the teen wants to start dating at. I am not quite that liberal though and think it should be a parental decision vs. the teen’s decision. What do you think? What dating standards did you have for your own children? ANSWER: Anyone who has read many of my advice columns knows that I regularly say, “There are no ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ in parenting, just ‘more effective’ and ‘less... (Read More ...)
Are You Parenting Adult Children Living At Home Getting Ready To Leave The Nest Or Finding Yourself Parenting Adult Children Living At Home Again?
When your youngest child turned 18, you thought you were done raising children. Although your 18 year old has gone away to college, your 19 year old tried going away to college last year, got home-sick and decided to come back home to go to the community college. Another child has been having a hard time. He lost his job and has moved back in with you as well. So now you find yourself parenting adult children living at home again. You thought this was going to be a time to relax and have less worries. Instead, you are still staying up at night wondering when your children will be in. Sometimes... (Read More ...)
Whether Parenting Adult Children Living At Home Again Or Living On Their Own, How Can Parents And Adult Children Work Out Problems Respectfully?
Your children have entered adulthood. You thought they were old enough to make decisions for themselves. But when you see poor decisions being made, you feel like stepping in to give advice and help them make better choices. When you try to tell them what they need to do or give suggestions on how to solve a problem responsibly, you wind up arguing, yelling and getting into power struggles. Eventually you get so tired of pleading and arguing that you either give up or give in. Why does parenting adult children seem so difficult? Follow These Easy Steps To Work Out Problems Between Parents and... (Read More ...)
Will Having A Teen Driving Contract Agreement Reduce Teenage Driving Statistics Due To Teenage Peer Pressure?
You have a new teen driver who is excited to use the family car to drive to practice. A couple friends on the team want to be picked up. You’ve heard about teenage driving statistics. You’ve seen coverage of teenage driving accidents on the news. You’re concerned about teenage peer pressure while driving. Would a Teen Driving Contract Agreement help your child avoid becoming one of those teenage driving statistics? For most teens, driving is a symbol of their independence and a rite of passage to adulthood. But driving is not a right; it is a privilege that brings responsibility.... (Read More ...)
Do you remember your first teenage driving lessons? They often consist mostly of parents screaming: “Watch Out!” “Slow Down!” “You’re scaring me!” You probably felt discouraged and your parents probably felt scared and frustrated. Would you like to make your child’s first teenage driving lessons more positive? Teaching your child to become a responsible teen driver has its challenges. There are great safety risks when you give control of a vehicle over to a learning teen driver. You need to realize that learning how to drive is not a right, it is a privilege. If you decide... (Read More ...)
Your child has been diagnosed with ADHD. Part of you is relieved. Finally you have an answer to why he is so hyper and unable to sit still. Part of you is distraught. You have started reading everything you can find about ADHD treatments and ADHD Management. You have concerns about the effects of ADHD medications. You are not sure what to do. As mentioned in the in the other articles in this series, “What Is ADHD And What Are Causes Of ADHD In Children” and “What Can Be Done To Help Decrease Behavior Problems Due To ADHD In Children,” Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is... (Read More ...)
What Can Be Done To Help Decrease Behavior Problems Due To ADHD In Children? Your child has signs of ADHD. You are concerned about some of his behaviors. Part of you feels some of them are on purpose. It seems he can behave appropriately at times, so why can’t he do it all the time? This article is part of a series that addresses the following questions you need to know about ADHD in Children. What is ADHD? What are the causes of ADHD In Children? How can you tell if your child is energetic,”hyper” or has ADHD? Who can diagnose ADHD and what do (or should) they consider when... (Read More ...)
What Is ADHD And What Are Causes Of ADHD In Children? Your child never seems to sit still. He runs through the house dumping out toy bins in every room and constantly jumps on the furniture. He is interested in one toy for only a few minutes before he is off to another one. You feel like you are in a whirlwind just trying to keep up with him. You start to wonder, “Why can’t he sit still and focus?” A couple friends have made comments to you that he shows signs of ADHD. You wonder, “What is ADHD and what are causes of ADHD in children anyway?” If you’ve ever wondered…or... (Read More ...)