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Identifying Problem Types
Is there a problem?
Question #1: Is this a Child problem (C) or a Parent problem (P)? (Narrow it down)
Question #2: Is the misbehavior in this Parent problem Unintentional (PU) or “On purpose” (PO)?
Question #3: If the behavior is “On purpose” (PO), what is the purpose?
PASRR Response Formula
Prevent problems from starting or worsening
- Foundation-Building Toolset
- Self-Esteem Toolset
- Cooperation Toolset
- Independence Toolset
What you say
Acknowledge the other person’s feelings or perspective
Set limits or express concerns. (Parent problems)
- Keep Your Cool Toolset
- Clear Communication Toolset
What you do
Redirect misbehavior (PU or PO).
- PU Toolset (Unintentional Misbehavior)
- PO Toolset (“On Purpose” Misbehavior): Attention, Power, Revenge, Giving up
Reveal discipline or take action.
Now follow through!
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