Table of Contents: The Universal Blueprint Choose Your Own Solution Parenting Hint Book

Identifying Problem Types

Is there a problem?
Question #1: Is this a Child problem (C) or a Parent problem (P)? (Narrow it down) 
Question #2: Is the misbehavior in this Parent problem Unintentional (PU) or “On purpose” (PO)? 
Question #3: If the behavior is “On purpose” (PO), what is the purpose?  

PASRR Response Formula

Prevent problems from starting or worsening

• Foundation-Building Toolset
• Self-Esteem Toolset
• Cooperation Toolset
• Independence Toolset

What you say

Acknowledge the other person’s feelings or perspective

• Child Problem Toolbox: F-A-X Listening Toolset

Set limits or express concerns. (Parent problems)

• Keep Your Cool Toolset
• Clear Communication Toolset

What you do

Redirect misbehavior (PU or PO).

• PU Toolset (Unintentional Misbehavior)
• PO Toolset (“On Purpose” Misbehavior): Attention, Power, Revenge, Giving up

Reveal discipline or take action.

• Discipline Toolset

Now follow through!

Maintain Progress

• Family Council Toolset

• Three C’s: Consistency, Criticism, Confidence

Extras: Handouts & Worksheets

• Trouble-Shooting Tips

• Table Overview

• Detailed House

• Problem-Solving Worksheet

• Anger Log

• Decision-Making Worksheet

• Book Order form

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